"…in our experience over three decades helping individuals and organizations, the biggest lever for change is not a change in self-belief but a fundamental change in the way one sees and regards one’s connections with and obligations to others."
- The Outward Mindset, page 132
"With an inward mindset, people behave in ways that are calculated to benefit themselves. With an outward mindset, people are able to consider and behave in ways that further the collective results that they are committed to achieve."- The Outward Mindset, page 26
The authors begin with a story about a policeman who, after being part of a team that raided a home in pursuit of drug dealers, stopped in the kitchen, prepared bottles of formula and gave them to the mothers of the small children in the house. His superior was at first confused and then proud. This is what he’d taught his team to do—to see others as people first and act from a deep understanding of their needs.
It’s a great story that quickly gets to the heart of the outward mindset. It’s all about thinking about other people as people and putting their interests first—even when that seems like a rather strange thing to be doing. Moreover, the policeman’s action is a creative response in the moment—one that could never have been written up in a manual. It was a result of seeing clearly and with deep humanity.
Once the mothers calmed their babies, the tension in the house subsided dramatically and the danger level in the situation dropped. As in all the stories that the authors share, the outward mindset produced powerful results—often unexpected ones.
An outward mindset focuses on others, on what is important to all stakeholders: our employees, customers, manager, family members. An outward mindset means that we genuinely see (and hear and listen to) others. We evaluate their needs, objectives and challenges rather than focusing on our own. When we do this, options occur to us that never could have before (e.g., the formula story) and we can focus on the collective result we desire. In addition, those who work with an outward mindset take responsibility and hold themselves accountable for their impact on the overall results of the organization.
An inward mindset is focused on self-benefit and self-concern—our individual self-interest or, if we are operating in a larger organization, our individual team or our division. The writers ask, “What is the cost of an inward mindset?” Their answer is that when “people focus on themselves rather than on their impact, lots of activity and effort get wasted on the wrong things.” Collaboration suffers, innovation is limited and “employees disengage due to the boredom inherent with inward-mindset thinking and working.”
Adopting an outward mindset requires ongoing effort—we can slide back, especially under stress—and can course correct when we do. As we adopt an outward mindset, we discover that we and our organizations are more alive and individuals are more engaged.
"To be outward doesn’t mean that people should adopt this or that prescribed behavior… it means that when people see the needs, challenges, desires, and humanity of others, the most effective ways to adjust their efforts occur to them in the moment. "- The Outward Mindset, page 87
The framework for working with the Outward Mindset goes by the acronym SAM—See others, Adjust efforts and Measure impact. An example that the authors bring is Alan Mulally’s work with his executive team when he came into (and turned around) the Ford Motor Company.
Ford was the only major American auto manufacturer that weathered the financial crisis in 2008 without a government bailout. It was more resilient than its US competitors. That’s how significant an outward mindset can be.
"So while the goal in shifting mindsets is to get everyone turned toward each other, accomplishing this goal is possible only if people are prepared to turn their mindsets toward others with no expectation that others will change their mindsets in return."- The Outward Mindset, page 94
One of the most powerful actions that the authors encourage us to take is to adopt an outward mindset even when others don’t. Rather than complain, we can make the move we are waiting for the other person to make—we can act the way we want the other person to act. In the words of the authors, “this kind of unilateral change is the essence of true leadership.”
While we think this might lead us to be taken advantage of, it is not a “soft” thing to do—in fact it’s a hard behavior that requires courage. Putting other’s interests first when we aren’t sure others are doing the same is a scary move. The authors claim it’s how outward mindsets start—and that we become open, curious and aware and, with patience, influence the system around us.
As I read this book and thought about the shift from an inward to outward mindset, I began to wonder if any organization can truly thrive without this shift and if, behind any truly great organization is an outward mindset. It’s a thought I’ve been fascinated by—and would love to hear your thoughts!
The Arbingers Institute helps organizations, families, individuals, and communities worldwide to correct the trouble created by the little-known but pervasive problem of self-deception. Arbinger is led internationally by founding partners James Ferrell, Duane Boyce, Paul Smith, and Terry Warner. Headquartered in the United States, Arbinger now has operations around the world, including throughout the Americas, Europe, Africa, the Middle East, India, Oceania, and Asia.